• Family,  Parenting

    From “That Day” to “This Day”: Grief finds a new forum

    If you know me, I mean really know me, then you know I lost my mom. But you may not know, or remember, that it’s been fifteen years. Or that today, November 1st, is the day she passed away. So, now you know. I can’t say that November 1st is “still such a hard day” or that I “can barely think straight for the grief” anymore. Not because I’m callous but because that’s life. It’s been fifteen years. That’s a very long time to be missing someone, even someone who took a piece of your soul when they went away. But November 1st will always be that day for me;…

  • Family,  Parenting

    Remembering my Mom, November 1st and Always

    With so many people in this world suffering devastation now, today, whether at the hands of mother nature or fate or circumstances out of their control, it hardly seems fair to dwell on a loss I suffered 14 years ago. Let alone write about it, as though that loss gives me license to feel sorry for myself, over and over again. But the pain of loss is very subjective. And the pain seems fresh every November 1st. November 1st. For some it means taking down the Halloween decorations and replacing them with Christmas lights and garland. For others it marks day one of Movember, a month-long mustachied fundraising quest for…

  • Family,  Parenting

    I’m No Ambulance Chaser

    Waves of emotion roll through me. It’s an odd time to be feeling this way. I’m stopped at a light with the twins in tow, making my way home for lunch. I’m hungry. And then I see it. Two car lengths ahead. The kids are straining to catch a glimpse. It is an ambulance, making its way quietly along. To the hospital, I suspect. And suddenly all I can think about is my mother’s last ambulance ride. Today is not special. It’s not an ‘anniversary’ of some horrible life experience. It’s a Tuesday. I’ve seen ambulances before, for crying out loud. Yet, out of the haze I have this vision…

  • Family,  Parenting

    Time in a Bottle, Indeed

    This week you may have seen circulating around Facebook this post: 1) Find out the song that was #1 the week you were born. 2) Find that song on YouTube. 3) Post that video on your wall without shame. Most ironically, it’s my birthday week, more specifically, my birthday DAY, so I decided to search out my birthday week song. This is what my Google search yielded on YouTube: [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QBWDHyAct4w] The interesting thing about this song, which was written by Jim Croce for his young son and originally released in 1972, is that it was re-released after Croce’s death in September 1973, at the age of 30, in a plane…

  • Family,  Parenting

    Thoughts on love and loss

    I’ve been wondering all day whether or not to write this.  And if so, what to say.  Because, when it comes to loss, what is there to say, really? In life, there is love and there is loss.  And a lot of other stuff in between.  I can only hope that you have all been blessed with love, in some form or another.  Loss, on the other hand, death, to be precise, is the one thing to which none of us is immune.  We will all be affected by the loss of a loved one, or touched by the passing of someone special, at some point in our lives; often,…